Moving on


Open door - Arno Smit

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens: but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.”

– Helen Keller


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Distraction has power

Woman walking - Mariona Campmany

“I never gave up. I just moved on.”

– Eric Dodge


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You are free


Boy on swing - Myles Tan

“Don’t ever feel bad for making a decision about your own life that upsets other people. You are not responsible for their happiness. You’re responsible for your own happiness. Anyone who wants you to live in misery for their happiness should not be in your life anyway.”

– Isaiah Hankel


It’s not your job to make others happy and it’s not their job to make you happy. Your happiness is your job and their happiness is their job. You can find happiness on your own, through the power of your focus and so can they. Whenever you feel ready, you can choose to focus on topics which give you pain in a way which makes it easier for you to feel relief and so can others. This is true freedom.


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The power of love

Boy - Annie Spratt

“From childhood on, little boys are taught not to cry or to express emotions. They are taught to hold on to their feelings. In my opinion, that is a form of child abuse and torture. It’s no wonder that as adults, men express so much anger. In addition, most men regret the lack of a good relationship with their fathers. If you want to see a man cry, give him a safe environment and get him to talk about his father. Usually so much sadness comes up as men speak of all the unsaid things between them and how they wish their childhoods might have been different. How much they wanted to hear from their fathers that they were loved and valuable.”

– Louise Hay, Empowering women.


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It’s not your job

people - Sean Stratton

“It is not your responsibility to raise the vibration of another. It will backfire on you 100% of the time. They will become needy blood-sucking vultures.”

– Abraham


If you want to uplift others, the only way you have of doing it in a way which will be easy for you is by being at a higher vibration yourself. When you are happy yourself, that is the only way you are of value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to. So you see someone feeling bad and you feel that by empathizing with them (by feeling their pain), you will make them feel better. As you do so, you find that you bring your vibrations down to theirs. Now you have two people feeling bad and there is nothing of value to anyone in this.

If you want to help others, it’s important that your focus is on the solution and not the problem. The frequency of the solution is very different from the frequency of the problem. Yes, that focus requires practice. If you really want to be of value to anyone (including yourself), then that practice is worth it.

And, in all this it’s helpful to remember that uplifting others is not your responsibility. The word “responsibility” feels like a burden. If you use “joy” and “fun” as your reason for doing something rather than “responsibility”, it will always feel better and be of value to you and to anyone else you would want it to be of value to.

If you really want to do something (or have to do something) and you can’t feel joy, then the suggestion is to start “focusing” on what you want to (or feel that you need to) do in a way that makes you feel a little better about it. Everyday, as you do so, you will find that the way you feel about that particular topic does not any longer give you as much pain as it did earlier. Even within just seven days of focusing on that topic in a way which makes you feel relief, you would have brought about a substantial difference in your vibrations on that topic. You would have changed the way you feel about it by focusing on anything (even if its just one thing that you find) which you can appreciate about it. If you can’t find anything to appreciate in it, then the suggestion is don’t do it. Not till the time you have changed the way you feel about it.

Yes, action is important but more important is action from which vibrational place. When you feel despair, you feel like doing a particular kind of action. When you feel anger, there is another kind of action which you feel like doing. When you feel hope there is yet another kind of action which is inspired from within you and when you feel love, there is another kind of action which you feel like doing. So, the vibrational place needs to be aligned first and then the action inspired from that new vibrational place can be taken up.

The law of attraction states “like attracts like” which means that what you are feeling attracts more to feel the same. So, it’s important that if you want positive experiences as far as a particular topic in your life is concerned, you feel positive about it as of now.


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You are Infinite Intelligence

It was a pleasant surprise to see a like from David Eagleman himself on a post on my Life Coaching with Sonal page on Facebook last week. In the post, I had shared an article titled “Seeing with the brain” (which I shared on twitter as well as on this blog). This article was from the blog “” and it was about David Eagleman’s phenomenal book “Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain” in which he writes about how we can see with the brain ..i.e. how vision is learned. David Eagleman is a neuroscientist, NYT bestselling author, Guggenheim Fellow, and creator of the PBS series THE BRAIN.

I am sharing his TED talk below which is one of the best Ted talks I have ever seen. You can see, in his eyes, the passion he has for the awesome work he is doing.



I am source energy in a physical body

Clouds and light - Marcus Dall Col

“In truth, I’m not my body, my race, religion, or other beliefs, and neither is anyone else.

The real self is infinite and much more powerful – a complete and whole entity that is One with Universal energy. In fact, I am Universal energy.”

– Anita Moorjani


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