Is it selfish to love yourself?

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“I don’t recall being encouraged to cherish myself.

In fact, it would never even have occurred to me to do so.

It’s commonly thought as being selfish.

But my near death experience allowed me to realize that this was the key to my healing.”

– Anita Moorjani

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Perfect age or perfect state of being?

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What is the perfect age? “Well, it’s the age where I finally understand my freedom, and I finally understand that I am free to create, and it’s the age that I am at my most beautiful.” And we say, by whose standards? In other words, who gets to decide the perfect age?

And we say, rather than determining what the perfect age is, why not decide what the perfect state of being is—and then discover that you can find the perfect state of being at any age.

– Abraham

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We are all free

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It’s just so happened that on some occasions in the past whenever I was feeling good, I saw butterflies. So connecting these two, I started noticing butterflies and feeling good and since feeling good is the same feeling as that of being aligned to who we are, I thought that seeing butterflies means I am aligned or in other words, I started seeing butterflies as a sign of my alignment. Alignment meant that I am feeling good and therefore, am allowing the law of attraction to match me up with more to feel even more good. Thinking like this, I started seeing butterflies as a sign of more good to come.

For me it was butterflies but for someone else, it could be something other than butterflies – maybe, a rainbow, maybe seeing a particular number, a particular color etc. Many people start thinking – “if I see, the day will be good” or ”if I see that, the day will be negative” as the case maybe. Based on each individual’s experience, he/she can have other things which he/she feels are a sign of one’s alignment and hence, a sign of what is to come.

Thankfully, based on what I now “know”, I snapped out of it pretty soon. I realized that instead of projecting my thoughts and connecting the two, I can always acknowledge my ability to feel good on my own with or without butterflies. Of course, it feels good to see butterflies (or any other thing that one likes) but I am not dependent on them to feel good. I can feel good on my own too i.e. through the feel-good thoughts I choose to focus on. When I do that, I reconnect to my freedom – i.e. the freedom we all have to feel good on our own, irrespective of the situation we are observing.

So, now when I see butterflies, do I smile and feel good? Yes, I do but it is not because I feel that they are a sign of my alignment but because I find them beautiful.

Am I dependent on seeing butterflies to feel good? No, I am not. I am free and so is everyone else on this planet to feel good on their own…through the power of our own focus.

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Self-love

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“Stop hating yourself for everything you aren’t and start loving yourself for everything you already are.”

–  recoveryexperts.com

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