Reconnect to your power

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“You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.”

– unknown
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The above reminds me of this very empowering quote by Abraham Hicks – “it is not your job to keep others happy and it is not their job to keep you happy”. It is your job to make yourself happy and it is their job to make themselves happy. Each one of us has the potential, the ability to feel happy through the power of our own focus, our thoughts much more than we give ourselves credit for. When you let yourself off the hook and let others off the hook too, can you imagine the deliciousness of that feeling? Two happy people savoring life coming together to further savor the awesomeness of the moments together. Can you imagine the power of that?

We are uplifters and it does feel good when we uplift others. When someone comes up to us and tells us that something that we did or said made him feel happy, we feel good. The problem arises when we start doing things for others in order for them to be happy and as time goes, we teach them to be dependent on us for their happiness. As they feel dependent on us for their happiness, their demands keep increasing and we keep giving even though we start feeling depleted. We have done two things – we have taught them to depend on us (rather than the power of their focus) and we have started resenting the very relationships we may have wanted to be of value to because now we feel we cannot give anymore. When we tell others that we cannot give anymore, more often than not they may react with anger because they are now used to getting their happiness from us. We may want them to have a different reaction. We may want them to understand where we are coming from but more often than not, this is not what we get from them in this situation.

We can’t control others (we may try and maybe we succeed with one person in the world but we can’t control them all and we do meet many people during our lifetime… trying to control them results in frustration) but we can control our thoughts. When we decide to focus on positive feeling thoughts, we allow the law of attraction to match us more with experiences which make us feel even more positive. As we practice our positive feeling thoughts throughout the day, every day, those who are around us either change to be a match to our new and improved vibrations or leave our experience and others take their place who are a match to our new vibrations. We start allowing the life experiences we desire.

Yes, it does require practice and initially, it may require gently guiding yourself to positive feeling thoughts. Feeling positive is not like a college degree that once you have it, it’s yours forever. Feeling positive is a choice you make every day, throughout the day. The suggestion is to be kind and gentle with yourself when starting to choose positive feeling thoughts over negative feeling thoughts. If you find yourself thinking negative feeling thoughts, that’s okay. You are human. The moment you are aware that you are thinking negative feeling thoughts, if you want, you can change them by distracting yourself to positive feeling thoughts. You can change your thoughts whenever you want. You never miss the bus.

Distracting yourself to “topics which are easy for you to appreciate” makes allowing more and more positive feeling moments easier on a daily basis. When you do this, that’s when you start allowing the life that you want to live – predominantly and consistently feeling positive. Anything that you want – more money, good health, a more nurturing relationship, a better career, starting a new venture, a bigger car etc. is all because you believe that you will feel better in the having of it. It is that feeling that you are targeting through that physical manifestation. If you can feel positive even though what you want has not yet manifested, what you want manifests “easily” in all its glory and the best part is that you “enjoy” the journey to living the physical manifestation that you want. That’s when you are “in the flow”. Athletes call it being in the zone. Musicians, athletes, authors, inventors, composers etc have long realized that unless they are in the flow, nothing flows.

Don’t do it for others. Do it for yourself. You can easily reconnect to your power, which was, is and always will be there for you within you.

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The key to allowing the relationship you want

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“We attract lovers from our level of energy. Take time to raise your vibration and attract from a higher vibration. If you want to live happily ever after, learn to manage your emotions and make joy the most important experience.

It’s ever so much more satisfying to get into a blissful place and attract a blissful person and live blissfully thereafter than to be in a negative place and attract a negative partner and then try to get happy from that negative place.”

– Abraham Hicks

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If the question arises, how can I be happy? The answer lies in these simple and profound words by Joseph Campbell – “follow your bliss.”

When you follow what makes you feel relief, what makes your heart sing, what gives you joy, what makes you put a spring in your step predominantly and consistently – you feel good more often and therefore, are in a position of strength (rather than lack). You enable two things here – firstly, you feel what you want to feel (i.e. feel good) predominantly and consistently (not always but predominantly and consistently) and secondly, as a consequence of your feeling so, you allow the law of attraction to match you more with experiences which make you feel even more good.  From this vibrational place of strength and feeling good, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

As you practice your good feeling thoughts throughout the day, every day, more people who are a match to your new and improved vibrations come to you. The people in your life who are not a match to your new vibrations either change to become a match to your vibrations or if they can’t change, they leave.

Some people may say that even though I don’t feel good about this person, I don’t want him/her to leave my life. Chances are high that as you change your vibrations, the relationship which you are not happy with will change into what you want but just in case it doesn’t (some people are so far away from their alignment that they can’t raise their vibrations to meet yours…they are not ready, as of now and that is okay…we have our own beautiful individual journeys and what resonates with one person may not necessarily resonate with another) and you still don’t want the person to leave…in this situation, the question which you may want to ask yourself here is how much do you love yourself? This is worth thinking about.

As you continue feeling good, no matter what, chances are high that you will reach a place where if you feel like leaving the relationship, your decision of leaving would not be something which makes you feel discomfort of any kind. Instead of being a “moving away from” feeling, it will be a “moving towards something else or a coming home to” feeling. The action offered may be the same but the vibrational place it comes from (and hence what it feels like) would be different because you started allowing feel good moments, no matter what.

I must add here that suppose you are in a relationship with a person which you feel cannot be done away with like for example, you are divorced and do not have an amicable relationship with your ex-spouse but feel that you need to maintain the relationship because you have kids. If you have been practicing good feeling thoughts consistently and predominantly (either about your ex-spouse or about any other topic which is easy for you to appreciate) when you are “not” with your ex-spouse, he/she will rendezvous with you only in the moments (or on the days) when he/she is a match to your vibrations i.e. when he/she is also feeling good (and therefore, the experience/ interaction will be a good feeling one). The law of attraction will orchestrate that.

It is important to note here that even though you are practicing your new and improved vibrations predominantly and consistently, you may still meet that one person every now and then who makes it tempting for you to choose to have a knee jerk reaction but because you are practicing your new and improved vibrations throughout the day, every day, you will be able to regain your balance (or in other words, your alignment) much more easily than earlier. You will have good shock absorbers while moving through life. Another good news is that as you continue practicing your good feeling thoughts, the negative experiences reduce in their frequency. You can’t eliminate them as they have value but you can reduce them.

You may ask what value do negative experiences have? Negative experiences help inspire within you desires for what you want. Every topic has an unwanted and a wanted – sickness (unwanted) and health (wanted), poverty (unwanted) and prosperity (wanted), rude people (unwanted) and kind people (wanted) etc. Whenever you are in an experience which you do not want, there is a sharp desire which springs forth from within you for the wanted. You need this sharp, strong and clear desire in order to grow and expand beyond what you have been before that desire. Isn’t the desire for wellness heightened in you after a period of sickness as compared to before that sickness? The unwanted helps in sharpening our desires. As you allow your desires (by feeling good, no matter what), you manifest your desire and move/grow into a place better than where you were before that desire was born from within you.

You might ask, why do we have to grow? You do because that is the essence of your being. “More” is the essence of who you are. When you have a lot happening in your life, you may get overwhelmed but after some time of rest, you start getting bored and then you want more. Of course, we can all choose how much more – some want more as in roller coaster rides whereas some may want more as a trip to the beach. We all have the freedom to choose how much of the thrill do we want.

As you focus on the specifics of what you want (i.e. on how good what you want feels) or on topics which may not be connected with what you want but are easy for you to appreciate (and therefore, feel good which is the same feeling that you will feel when you get what you want), you allow the law of attraction to match you up with your desire because vibrationally you are same or in the vicinity. That is how you leverage the power of the universe.

You can try and achieve what you want from a place where you are focused more on what you do not want but it will be an arduous journey and what you achieve will be a minuscule portion of what you could have had you focused on your desire or on the vibration of your desire (i.e. had you lined up energy before offering the action inspired from that place of alignment). Why swim upstream when you can swim downstream and get the full potential of what you want? The former will give you solutions but they were be at best mediocre ones. The master solutions come when you are a vibrational match to your desires – i.e. you are feeling what you will feel once you are living what you desire (even though what you desire has not manifested yet). Thankfully, there are many ways to feel good (the same frequency/vibration/feeling of your desire) – meditation, napping (yes 🙂 ), a walk next to nature, indulging in a hobby, a warm relaxing bath, spending time with a supportive and trustworthy friend etc. You can choose whichever way resonates with you, whichever way gives you relief, whichever way makes you feel good. Any of these can lead to the feeling (on in the vicinity) of what you desire. You believe that once you have what you desire, you will feel better and if you can feel better right now, you allow your desire “easily” into your physical reality and the path to your desire is also a joyous path.  The ideas and impulses which comes to you from this place of feeling good, the action which you feel inspired to offer are from a place of strength rather than from a place of lack. You are leveraging the power of the universe. You are allowing the energy which creates worlds to flow to you and through you and you are flowing it toward all that you want. This is a very powerful place to be in.

A question can arise here – what if you are in a relationship which is verbally or emotionally or physically abusive? My suggestion would be to consider leaving the relationship even if you have not found the strength to think better feeling thoughts while being in the relationship. When in a place where you feel safe and whenever you feel ready, you can choose to think about that relationship in a way which makes you feel relief. This relief is important because firstly, it will make you feel better (which is what you want) and that will help in making peace with what happened (I reiterate – only when you feel that you are ready to make peace) and secondly, as you feel relief, as you feel better, as you make peace, you allow the law of attraction to match you with more to feel better, with more of what that relationship helped inspire within you.

Sometimes, we leave a relationship but do not change our vibrations at any point and we find others who make us feel the same that we felt in that relationship that we left. We can change places and faces but if our vibration is the same (i.e. a negative feeling emotion with regard to a particular topic), we (without intending to) attract more people who make it easy for us to feel the same emotion that we felt in that earlier abusive relationship. So, it’s in our interest to make peace with something which gave us pain but my suggestion is to initiate making peace only when you feel ready to do so. How would you know that you are ready? When you are able to think about that topic which gave you pain in a way which is not that painful any longer.

If you have been focusing on topics which are easy for you to appreciate more often, if you have been creating more feel-good moments predominantly and consistently through ways which make you feel better, which give you relief, which give you joy, chances are high that because of the new and improved vibrational place you are in, you may find the strength to initiate making peace with a specific topic that was painful to you earlier. There is no right or wrong in this. Just go by what feels better to you, what soothes you, what makes you feel relief. It’s your own beautiful individual journey.

It starts with you and your commitment to feeling good. If you have not been feeling good with one or many topics in your life, initially thinking feel-good thoughts can seem like an effort but as you go along, it gets easier. Initially, you may be able to find only a few moments in a day where you are able to focus in a way which makes you feel better. As you go along, you can stretch these moments by focusing on topics which are easy for you to feel good about. Some days, you may find yourself going back to the start i.e. from where you began feeling relief but don’t worry, you never miss the bus. You can start again whenever you feel ready to do so. There is always hope. As times goes and you practice your good feeling thoughts more often throughout the day, every day, you will find it easier to create more feel-good moments. The easier it gets, the easier it gets. The law of attraction is not saying that you feel good all the time. Even if you can feel good 55% of the day, every day, you would have made a substantial difference in your vibration and hence of what comes to you.

You start living as you intended to live – “free” and “joyously” “ever expanding” beyond what you have been before. You reconnect to your worthiness. As I wrote, it all starts with you and your commitment to feeling good.

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“Your happiness is the most significant contribution that you could make. In your reaching for happiness, you are opening a vortex which makes you an avenue for the Well-being to flow through you. And anything that is your object of attention under those conditions, benefits by the infusion of your Well-being.”

– Abraham Hicks

Excerpted from: Boston, MA on October 10, 1999

Our Love,

Esther (and Abraham and Jerry)

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Do not look for love in all the wrong places

 

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“Don’t worry if someone doesn’t like you. Most people are struggling to like themselves.”

– Unknown

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When you expect love from people who are not even loving themselves in the first place, it’s like expecting a loan from someone who does not have money. Knowing this helps in feeling relief when you meet someone who doesn’t like you. This is not to justify but to understand and understanding is important in order for you to move on without negative emotion.

Some people may say “no! people who do not like me do love themselves. I do see them laughing and having fun”. Firstly, you have no means of knowing how they truly feel within. Secondly, you must understand that when someone loves himself/ herself, from that place of love and strength, whoever has the benefit of laying their eyes on this person feels that love if he/she is in the vibrational vicinity. From this place of feeling love and feeling good – you want to appreciate, you want to smile, you want to pass compliments, you have a spring in your step, you feel good, you feel ease, you feel joy, you are kind and gentle with yourself and with others. From this empowered place, you are of so much value to yourself and to others you want to be of value to.

So, when you love yourself, it’s easier to feel love for others too.

Even if you choose not to move away from someone who does not love you, understanding this will help in feeling better when with such people or while thinking about such people. In addition to focusing in this way, distracting yourself to topics which are easy for you to appreciate also helps in feeling better. It’s important to feel better because firstly, that is what you want. You want to feel better. Everything that you want in your life – better health, more money, better career, starting a new venture, a more nurturing relationship etc. is because you believe that you will feel better in the having of it. It is that feeling that you are targeting. Looking at a situation in a way which makes you feel relief, allows you to feel better in the first place (which is what you want) even though the situation may not have changed. You reconnect to your freedom – freedom from negative thoughts.

Secondly, as you feel better predominantly and consistently (irrespective of the situation you are in), you allow the law of attraction to match you up with more to feel even more better about. Your physical reality changes to be a match to your new, improved, predominant and consistent vibrations about a topic which earlier used to be painful to you. That is when you start living as the creator that you intended to be – creator of your life experiences. You reconnect to your power.

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Say yes to yourself!

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“You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no.”

– unknown.

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Say yes to yourself. The greatest gift that you can give to yourself and to others is your happiness, is honoring the magnificent creation of life that you are, is genuinely appreciating and loving yourself (this is different from arrogance or vanity which are always from a place of fear as Louise Hay says), is supporting and nurturing yourself, is doing what gives you relief, is doing what makes your heart sing, is doing what puts a spring in your step, is doing what gives you joy and ease, is making your happiness a priority. From this place of feeling good, love and strength, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

I would like to add here that only you know what you want to say no to and what you want to say yes to because only you know what feels the most easy to you or what feels the path of least resistance to you. There is no right or wrong here. The suggestion is to focus on what gives you relief, what soothes you, what make you feel better.

Sharing a beautiful Abraham Hicks video. It lends further clarity on feeling good. The video short (4 minutes), simple and profound.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0w_UaXDurc0

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I choose to be happy

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“I’m going to be happy. I’m going to skip. I’m going to be glad. I’m going to smile a lot. I’m going to be easy. I’m going to count my blessings. I’m going to look for reasons to feel good. I’m going to dig up positive things from the past. I’m going to look for positive things where I stand. I’m going to look for positive things in the future. It is my natural state to be a happy person. It’s natural for me to love and to laugh. This is what is most natural for me. I am a happy person!”

– Abraham Hicks

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Affirming feel-good moments throughout the day, every day for everyone 🙂

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Loving yourself

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“Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy? This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself. The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out.”

– Alan Cohen
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As people feel a resonance with the thought of loving themselves, I am often asked how can we love ourselves? What does it mean to love ourselves? My answer is to initially appreciate topics which are easy for you to feel good about. As you do so throughout the day, everyday, you will reach a place where you are feeling better and stronger predominantly and consistently. From this place of strength, if you feel ready, you can choose to put your loving gaze on yourself too. Chances are high that now because of the new and improved vibrational place that you are in, you will be able to love and appreciate yourself easily.

I must add that loving ourselves is not arrogance or vanity (that is always from a place of fear as Louise Hay says). Loving ourselves means genuinely appreciating the magnificent creation of life that we are.

A question can arise in some – Why would you choose to love yourself? Because when you love yourself, you will feel good and you love feeling good. That is what your essence is. You are pure positive energy. Don’t you love it when you are in love? Don’t you find feeling good awesome? Everything you want – a more nurturing relationship, better health, bigger car, a promotion at work, starting a new venture, more money etc. is all because you believe that you will feel good in the having of it. It is that feeling that you are targeting. When you love yourself, you find it easy to make choices which make you feel even more good, predominantly and consistently. From this place of strength, you are of so much value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

When you feel love for yourself, you allow the law of attraction to match you with people who also feel love and appreciation for you. The law of attraction states “like attracts like”. What you are feeling attracts more to feel the same. It is a very powerful law just like the law of gravity. We use our knowledge and understanding of the law of gravity to make our lives easy. We can do the same with the law of attraction too.

Another beautiful thing happens when you start feeling good predominantly and consistently. What you are feeling determines the action which is inspired from within you. When you are feeling despair (with regard to any one topic in your life which is important to you or with regard to many topics), there is a particular kind of action which you feel like offering. When you are feeling anger, there is another kind of action that you feel like offering. When you are feeling hope, there is yet another kind of action that you feel like offering and when you are feeling love and appreciation, there is another kind of action that you feel inspired to offer. The action you offer is important but more important is the vibrational place from where it is inspired.

When you are predominantly and consistently feeling either love and appreciation or in the vicinity of it, can you imagine the power of that? The words that you feel liking saying, the thoughts and impulses which come to you, the way you focus on various topics, the action that you feel inspired to offer – all of it is, predominantly and consistently, from a place of strength, a place of true freedom, a place of feeling good, a place of love.

My suggestion would be don’t love yourself for anyone else, don’t do it because you will be of more value to whoever you want to be of value to (which you will be…from that place of love, appreciation, feeling worthy, joy, freedom, feeling empowered, you bring the “whole of you” to any topic/ person you want to be of value to), do it because it feels good to you, do it because you are pure positive energy, do it because you love to feel love, do it for that beautiful feeling of love, do it for yourself.

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When you love yourself

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“If you don’t love yourself, you’ll always be chasing after people who don’t love you either.”

– Mandy Hale

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You can always choose to focus your loving gaze first on yourself 🙂 …..and when you do so predominantly and consistently, you allow the law of attraction to match you up more with people who also appreciate you just the way you do and if you do meet someone who does not, it would not matter as you, in any case, have reconnected to that genuine love and appreciation for yourself (even before meeting that person).

Loving yourself may seem like an effort initially but as you go along, it gets easier. It’s like learning a new skill. Yes, it does require every day practice esp. initially. In the initial days, sometimes it may be easy and sometimes, it may not and that is okay. When a baby learns to walk, it does not start running the very first time. Learning to love yourself again is like that. The suggestion is to be kind and gentle with yourself while on this beautiful journey.

When you nurture and support yourself, when you honor the magnificent creation of life that you are (not vanity or arrogance as that is always from a place of fear, as Louise Hay says), you reconnect to your freedom and to your power. From this place of love and strength, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

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