You and you

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“The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.”

― Diane von Furstenberg

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The relationship which is the most important is between you and you – the physical you (the one you can see, hear, touch – i.e. interpret with your physical senses) and the non-physical you (what you can feel but can’t see – some call it soul, some call it inner being, some call it source energy, some call it universe, some call it infinite intelligence – all are referring to the essence of who you are – pure positive energy).

When you are feeling good, no matter what, you are aligned with who you are and from this place of strength, two things happen –  firstly, you experience feel-good moments, you feel happy (which is what you want to feel) and secondly, as you continue feeling good predominantly and consistently, you allow the law of attraction to match you up with the abundance (abundance of clarity, abundance of strength, abundance of alignment, abundance of well-being, abundance of vitality, abundance of freedom, abundance of worthiness, abundance of confidence, abundance of love and appreciation, abundance of prosperity etc.) that you want  “easily” and “in its full potential”.

“One who is in alignment is more powerful than millions who are not.”

– Abraham-Hicks

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There is power in alignment

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“Some people will only love you as long as you fit in their box. Don’t be afraid to disappoint.”

– unknown

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Give yourself permission to stop looking for love in all the wrong places. You may have noticed that even those who love you can’t feel love for you all the time. When they are feeling good and focus on you, they feel love and appreciation. When they are not feeling good (which happens to all of us and that is okay…we are human) and focus on you, they feel negative emotion (could be irritation/ frustration/ anger etc.). They cannot love and appreciate you from a place where they are not feeling good.

Instead of looking at others, if you can look toward your source (some people call it soul, some call it inner being, some call it inner self, some call it infinite intelligence, some call it universe, some call it source energy – all are referring to the non-physical part of you – the part you can’t see but you can feel – the part which is the essence of who you are – pure, positive energy) who is always loving and adoring you, no matter what, you will feel the constant stream of well-being and love flowing toward you at all times.

“The universe knows me, and the universe adores me.

If you will allow it, you will feel the love that flows to you and through you. You are always see, always understood – and always loved.”

– Abraham Hicks

 

How do you connect to this stream of well-being which is always flowing to you? When you follow your bliss, when you do what makes your heart sing, when you take out the time to focus in a way which makes you feel relief, when you appreciate things which are easy for you to appreciate, when you do what makes you feel good – in all these moments, you are connected to your source energy, to who you really are. You are pure positive energy and that is why you love feeling positive emotions – that is your essence, that is who you truly are.

I would like to add here that negative emotions do have value. They let you know that the way you are focused on a topic is different from the way your inner being is focused on the same topic. Your inner being feels well-being always and when you do not (you may have reasons for feeling the negative emotion that you are feeling and therefore, you get to be right but you do not get to be happy…and happy is what you want to feel), you feel negative emotion. Negative emotions are our indicator that we have pinched ourselves off from the stream of well-being ever flowing to us. We can choose to focus in a way which makes us feel either the same as our inner being or in the vicinity of it. Positive and negative emotions are part of the guidance we were born with – our manual. Positive emotions let you know that you and your inner being are aligned – focused in the same way. Negative emotions let you know that you and your inner being are not aligned. The good news is that you can focus in a different way when feeling negative emotion in order to feel the positive emotion that you want to feel.

Why would we want to change our focus from a negative feeling one to a positive feeling one? Because till the time we do not align with our inner being, we will not feel the relief we so much want to feel. Our inner being will not come where we are (someone has got to hold the light). So, if we want to feel positive emotions, we can consider focusing on better feeling thoughts (either on the same topic or on any other topic which is easy for us to appreciate). It’s a moment to moment choice that we make on an everyday basis. Feeling good is not like a college degree that once we have it, it’s ours forever. It’s a choice we make every day throughout the day.

Why do we want to feel positive emotion? Because that is who we are. Try feeling negative emotions for some time, you will not like that feeling. Negative emotions have value but you do not like feeling them because that is not who you are. Try feeling positive emotions and you love it because that is who you are. Anything that you want – a more nurturing relationship, more money, better health, a bigger house, a great business, a great career etc. is all because you believe you will feel better in the having of it. It is that positive emotion that you are targeting. You love feeling positive emotions because that is who you are – pure positive energy.

Baby steps are all it takes to feel better from where you are. The suggestion is to kind and gentle with yourself on this journey. As you feel better a little more every day, you start allowing feel-good moments more often. You are aligned with who you are more often. The law of attraction is not saying that you feel good all the time every day but even if you can feel good 55% of the time on a consistent everyday basis, you would have managed to achieve a substantial change in your vibrations and hence, of what manifests in your life.

From this place of strength, you allow the law of attraction to match you “easily” with life experiences that make you feel even more positive, with all that you desire – whether it be in terms of the kind of people you like, the financial prosperity you want, the health that you want etc. You feel empowered and strengthen your connection with your worthiness.  You start loving life and loving yourself.

The law of attraction states “like attracts like” – i.e. what you are feeling attracts more to feel the same. When you are predominantly and consistently feeling good (or in other words, you are predominantly and consistently aligned with who you are), you allow the law of attraction to match you with more that makes you feel even more good. You start deliberating, predominantly and consistently allowing the life experiences that you want in your life. Rather than a “facer of your life”, you become the “creator of your life” – the way you intended to be when you came in this time-space-reality.

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Self-love is the key to all that you want

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“It’s what we all wanted when we were children- to be loved and accepted exactly as we were then, not when we got taller or thinner or prettier…and we still want it… but we aren’t going to get it from other people until we can get it from ourselves.”

– Louise Hay

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Cherish and love yourself

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“The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are”

– Joseph Campbell

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Dr. Wayne Dyer once said, “You are always a valuable, worthwhile human being – not because anybody says so, not because you’re successful, not because you make a lot of money – but because you decide to believe it and for no other reason.”

You are worthy because you exist 🙂. You are enough just the way you. You are worthy just the way you.

Yes, there are people who judge you but if you look, you will see that they are people who are not feeling good (even before they met you that day) and are therefore, disconnected from who they are because of which they can’t love themselves (in the first place) and you, unconditionally at all times. Someone who is connected to his source (or inner being or inner self or soul or infinite intelligence etc. – people may call it different things but they are referring essentially to the pure positive non-physical part of us) predominantly and consistently feels good predominantly and consistently and therefore is able to love and appreciate himself and others predominantly and consistently. When you are feeling positive emotion, you want to appreciate, you want to compliment, you want to smile. When you are feeling negative emotion (it could range from irritation, frustration, being overwhelmed to anger, hatred, rage to powerlessness, despair, helplessness etc.), appreciation is something which does not occur to you because the vibration is so different from where you are at that time. It is the same with others too. We are all human.

Your source, on the other hand loves you and adores you all the time. There is this beautiful quote by Abraham Hicks – “If you were listening to the hypnotic voice of your Source, you’d be constantly hearing the drum beating that says, “You are loved, and you are worthy, and you are valued and life is supposed to be good for you. You are worthy, you are valued, you are loved and life is supposed to be good for you.”

You may want to choose as to whether you would like to listen to the people who are sometimes connected and sometimes disconnected (and therefore, sometimes approving of others and sometimes disapproving of others) or to your source (which is always there within you loving you and adoring you). You can get some glimpses of approval from others here and there and even though it does feel good when it happens, if you get addicted to approval from others (who are fickle and it’s okay…we are all human), you are giving up something really important for something which can be at best temporary. You always have a choice.

So, if you decide to listen to your source, how can you “feel” it? You can when you are thinking thoughts that make you feel relief, which make you feel better, which make you feel good, you are feeling the same feeling as that of your source. Your source is pure positive energy (and that is why you love feeling positive emotions because that is your essence) and when you both are feeling the same, you are connected.

Just want to add here that sometimes, many people judge themselves for feeling negative emotions and nothing will take you further from your source than judging yourself. Whenever you will judge yourself, you will always feel the punch in your gut (emotionally). Even though negative emotions are painful, they do have value. Positive and negative emotions are part of your inner guidance. Whenever you feel negative emotion, that is an indicator that you are thinking thoughts which are separate from your inner being, from your source and you can (through the power of your own focus and willpower) whenever you feel ready to, pivot to better feeling thoughts. Distraction can be extremely powerful in this. You can distract yourself to topics which are easy for you to appreciate and when feeling better and stronger, if you want to and feel ready to, you can focus on the topic which was painful in a way which gives you relief. Chances are high that because of the new and improved vibrational place that you are in, you will be able to look at what was painful in a way which makes you feel better about it.

A question can arise here – if I love myself where I am, does that mean that I will never want more, that I will never grow? Does being happy with myself just the way I am mean that I will be static? Not at all. You will want more. That is your essence but you can be “happy on your way to more” or you can be “unhappy on your way to more”. The choice is yours. Whatever you will be feeling predominantly and consistently (not always but predominantly and consistently) on your journey will determine how much and how easily you get what you want. Sharing another profound quote by Abraham Hicks here who say that the best place to be in vibrationally – “I am satisfied where I am and eager for more”.

Living predominantly and consistently in alignment with your source, with who you are is an extremely powerful place to be in – you are feeling joy, free, worthy empowered, passionate, thrill, ease, love, appreciation more often and isn’t that what you would like? You are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to from this place of strength.

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Feeling ease because it feels so good

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“When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of stress and anxiety. If I sit in my place of patience, what I want flows to me, and without pain. From this I understand that what I want also wants me, is looking for me and attracting me. There is a great secret here for anyone who can grasp it.”

– Rumi.

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When you prepare here (by being happy wherever you are), there (i.e. what you want) comes over here and it comes over here “easily”. This is different from you going over there to get what you want. This is not to say that do not offer action but action from a place of alignment (from a place of feeling good) is very powerful.

When you are feeling despair, you feel like offering a particular kind of action. When you are feeling anger, there is another kind of action which you feel like offering. When you are feeling hope, there is yet another kind of action which you feel inspired to offer and when you are feeling love and appreciation, there is yet another kind of action which you feel like offering. The action offered is important but more important is the vibrational place from where it is inspired.

First line up energy (by feeling good even though what you want hasn’t manifested) and then offer the action inspired from within you. You can offer action without lining up energy but the journey will be hard. Why make it hard when you can make it easy and also get the full potential of what you want? Why swim upstream when you can swim downstream (and hence enjoy the journey to what you want) and get the full potential of what you want (rather than a minuscule amount)?

This is very different from the thought that you must work hard, you must strive hard, you must sacrifice to get what you want, there is no gain without pain. That is one way of living/achieving what you want but not the only way. Choice is always yours.

I want to quote Abraham Hicks here – “You cannot have a happy ending to an unhappy journey.” You may find a solution at the end of an unhappy journey but it will be a mediocre one as compared to what you can manifest/ allow when you enjoy the journey to what you want. When you allow yourself to enjoy the journey by focusing on what makes you feel good predominantly and consistently, you allow the master solutions to be revealed to you as ideas, as impulses, as thoughts.

The frequency (i.e. the feeling or the vibration) of the problem and the frequency of the solution are different. In order to allow the solution to occur to you, being in its vibrational vicinity (i.e. feeling either the same or in the vicinity of feeling better which is what the solution will make you feel) will be of tremendous value. As Abraham Hicks say that the best vibrational place to be in – “I am satisfied where I am and eager for more”. I am feeling happy where I am and eager for feeling even more happy.

I want to add that instead of the word “patience” in the above quote, I would suggest the word “ease”. Feeling ease where you are. How do you feel ease when you don’t like a reality you are living, when it is so much in your face? You do so by going general into topics which are easy for you to appreciate. As you do this each day throughout the day, you will reach a place where you feel good more often. From this place of strength, chances are high that you will be able to look at something which was painful earlier is a way which gives you relief.

If you feel that you would like to and are ready to focus on something which was and/or is painful for you in a way which makes you feel relief – you can soothe yourself by telling yourself – “take a deep breath, relax, there there, it’s okay, things will get better, you have been in situations which were painful but you did come out if them so this too will be fine, all is well, there are people who are living the reality I want who were once in the same place that I am in, I am where I am and it’s okay” and similar statements. There is no right or wrong statement – just go by the relief it makes you feel. And before long, you will be feeling better. Be your own best friend.

A question can come up here – how much time will it take to feel better? The time taken will depend on two things – what you are feeling (i.e. your vibrations) and how committed you are to feeling better every day throughout the day.

As you soothe yourself and feel relief, you will walk toward feeling better. As you feel better more often every day, you will be walking towards feeling good more often. As you feel good more often, you will allow the law of attraction to match you up with all that you want because then you are in the same or similar vibration of your desire. You believe that once you have what you want, you will feel better. As you are feeling better now (even though what you want has not manifested), you allow the law of attraction to match you with all that you want in all it’s glory “easily”. The law of attraction is not saying that you feel good all the time but even if you can feel good 55% of the time every day, you would have managed a substantial difference to your vibrations and hence of what manifests in your life.

If not for anything else, just for the feeling of it, feeling better from wherever you are is worth a shot 🙂

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